The Role of Parents In Interscholastic Athletics

Communicating With Your Children

1. Make sure your children know that win or lose, scared or heroic, you love them, appreciate their efforts and are not disappointed in them. This will allow them to do their best without fear of failure. Be the person in their life they can look to for constant positive reinforcement.
2. Try your best to be completely honest about your child’s athletic ability, competitive attitude, sportsmanship and actual skill level.
3. Be helpful but don’t coach them. It’s tough not to, but it is a lot tougher for the child to be flooded with advice and critical instruction.
4. Teach them to enjoy the thrill of competition, to be “out there trying,” to strive to improve their skills and attitudes. Help them to have fun.
5. Try not to relive your athletic life through your child in a way that creates pressure; you lost as well as won. You were frightened, you backed off at times, you were not always heroic. Don’t pressure your child because of your pride. Athletic children need their parents, so you must not withdraw. If they are comfortable with you win or lose, them they are on their way to maximum achievement and enjoyment.
6. Don’t compete with the coach. If your child is receiving mixed messages from two different authority figures, he or she will likely become confused and disenchanted.
7. Don’t compare the skill, courage or attitude of your child with other members of the team.
8. Get to know the coach(es). Then you can be assured that his or Philosophy, attitudes, ethics and knowledge are such that you are happy to have your child under his or her leadership.
9. Always remember that children tend to exaggerate, both when praised and when criticized. Temper your reaction and investigate before overreacting.
10. Make a point of understanding courage and the face that it is relative. Everyone is frightened in certain areas. Explain that courage is not the absence of fear, but a means of doing something

Communicating with The Coach

Communication You Should Expect From Your Child’s Coach

• Philosophy of the coach
• Expectations the coach has for your child as well as all of the players on the squad
• Locations and time of all practices and contests
• Team requirements (fees, special equipment, off season conditioning)
• Procedure should your child be injured
• Discipline that results in the denial of your child’s participation

Communication Coaches Expect From Parents

• Concerns expressed directly to the coach
• Notification of any schedule conflicts well in advance
• Specific concerns with regard to a coach’s philosophy and/ or expectations

Appropriate Concerns To Discuss With Coaches

• The treatment of your child, mentally and physically
• Ways to help your child improve
• Concerns about your child’s behavior

Issues Not Appropriate To Discuss With Coaches

• Team strategy
• Play calling
• Other student-athletes

Appropriate Procedure For Discussing Concerns With Coaches

• ·Call to set up an appointment with the coach (contact the athletic administrator to set up the meeting if unable to reach the coach)
• Do not confront a coach before of after a contest or practice (these can be emotional times for all parties involved and do not promote resolution)

What If The Meeting With The Coach Did Not Provide A Satisfactory Resolution

• Call to set up an appointment with the athletic administrator or activities director
• Determine the appropriate next step at this meeting